Not always eye to eye, but always heart to heart: forever and always

A tribute to all the siblings out there!

“Where’s the remote?” he asks walking in to the room.

“It’s with me,” I reply.

“Why do you have the remote? You don’t own the T.V. You can keep it in place where everyone can use it, if you know what I mean,” he says in his matter of fact tone.

“I came here first and I’m watching a programme I like,” I reply.

“Oh really! Well, I didn’t know that I needed to make a reservation to watch T.V. Give me the remote there’s something I want to watch,” he replies.

“No way, I’m elder than you so I get to watch what I want,” I say.

“I don’t think you being elder applies to the T.V. remote,” he says trying to grab the remote.

And that marks the beginning of what I would like to call, “the world war of who wins the remote control to the Television at home.”

I believe that most of us have encounters of the sort, especially if we have siblings. Be it brothers or sisters, the encounters are usually very similar in nature. Honestly, I cannot fathom how there can be such an interesting combination of unconditional love and protection combined with a sense of anger that sprouts towards this same source of love. I mean sibling arguments and fights, you do not even know why they start sometimes. It just happens, if you know what I mean. I wouldn’t call it arguments or fights really it’s all out of love in the end, right? Hence, I’d like to call it the “sibling tease” (which includes arguments and shouting and laughing and teasing and arguing again and umm… okay, never mind).

The point is, one moment you are best of friends, the next moment you are fighting over some silly thing arguing or trying to prove to each other wrong resulting in a “tied” game where nobody wins the argument because well, who are we kidding, we are the same DNA and genetics and that’s why we are siblings, right? Surely, there must be some theory to explain this beautiful mismatch of emotions that strengthens the bond between us siblings, but I guess only God knows what the theory really is.

Despite the constant “sibling tease” it truly is amazing how siblings are also each other’s support system. They are the pillars of strength when either feel down and out. Siblings are each other’s constant cheerleaders, the person or people that will always have our back no matter what how hard it may be to handle. No matter what it takes, your siblings will always be there for you right by your side. Why though? The only legit reason being that they are always “number one” on the priority lists of each other.

There will be times where siblings may not share the same perspectives on a situation and there may be a typical Drake and Josh moment where they may ask each other “are you calling me a liar?”, the instant reply being “well, I ain’t calling you a truther.” Yet, they will always be the only ones that truly attempt to look through the misunderstanding and go the extra mile to sort things out just to make sure nothing has gone wrong. There will also be moments that either of the siblings do not accept their fault and say sorry to each other. Yet, as soon as the moment is over, after like a really long span of five minutes (just saying) you begin to speak to each other like nothing ever happened. Siblings are the only people on earth that you can forgive that way because the connection between one another is nothing but purely unconditional love.

I’m sure most of you siblings can relate to what I’m saying despite it being a brother or sister. Elder or younger. In the end we are all of we’ve got for each other. One fine day as we go our separate ways we will be the ones that miss each other the most and will eagerly wait for every opportunity to meet each other. That is sibling love in its truest form!

I hope that this may be a tribute to all the siblings out there!

Most importantly, I want this to be a tribute to my “gem” of a brother!!

-Nicholle Collom-